Blog review by Michael Estlack, Director of Connectivity
In his latest book entitled, "Out of the Doghouse: A step-by-step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men caught Cheating," international sexual health expert Rob Weiss explains that cheating on one’s spouse can come in many different forms. Whether its watching porn or having actual intercourse, these rules are usually defined within the relationship early on. While these cheating rules may be clear, many are confused as to why men cheat in the first place.
Often, therapists find that men place blame on outside reasons, but what are the real, underlying reasons for cheating?
According to Weiss, one major contributing reason comes in the form of insecurity. These men may not feel they are good enough and have enough going for them so they seek outside validation from other woman. Entitlement also plays a role, says Weiss. These men may be feeling as if they deserve this external release. A third reason might just be pure selfishness, which most probably already considered as a reason in the first place. Cheating men may simply be only concerned with themselves and their desires, leaving their vows behind in pursuit of sexual release.
"For most men, there is no single factor driving the decision to cheat," says Weiss. "And sometimes a man’s reasons for cheating evolve over time as his life circumstances change. Regardless of a man’s reasons for cheating, he needs to understand that he didn’t have to do it. There are always other options—couple’s therapy, taking up golf, being open and honest and working to improve the relationship, even separation and/or divorce. All of these are choices that don’t involve degrading and potentially ruining one’s integrity and sense of self."
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