Article Summary By Michael Estlack, Director of Connectivity
According to The Self-Love Experiment by Shannon Kaiser, self-compassion must precede self-love. You cannot fully love yourself until you can master this. Self-compassion and self-love involve finding your true needs and dismissing any feelings of guilt or shame you feel toward yourself. It’s about learning what makes you unique and allowing yourself to show that off to the world. Embracing every habit and behavior you exhibit. Self-compassion lets you take the first steps to being kind and gentle with yourself and it inevitably becomes the cornerstone of self-love.
Finding self-compassion has many obstacles, though. For instance, when we fall victim to comparison with others, we often get terrible messages about ourselves. Maybe you aren’t as athletic as them or you don’t have the same high cheekbones. Whatever the case, when you compare, you are sure to lose. We have to find a safe place where we can be fine with what we have to offer while not feeling the need to measure ourselves with someone else’s ruler. Such a place may be hard to get to, but the journey there is rich with love and an overall sense of being good enough.
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According to a recent article in Rolling Stone, "Thousands of men claim that porn addiction has led to erectile dysfunction." Gabe Deem, along with countless other young males, are reportedly plagued with PIED, or porn induced erectile dysfunction. While PIED does not yet hold a place in any diagnostic manual, it has quickly become a problem for many guys who frequent pornography sites. This type of erectile dysfunction is “psychogenic” in that the dysfunction has no physiological cause. Researchers explain that they are now seeing this as more of a problem because porn is so widely accessible to these young men in whatever form and fashion they prefer.
Gary Wilson, author of Your Brain on Porn, points to high levels of dopamine released when stimulating material is viewed. The more that the material satisfies sexual desires, the more dopamine is released. Consequently, the Internet literally holds pornographic material for every fetish imaginable providing vast amounts of visual stimulation.
According to Wilson, the more we view this visual stimulation, the more we condition our brain to link pornography with sexual gratification. However, after a while, the brain starts requiring more and more dopamine to explicit the same original response driving men to even more extreme content then where they started. Ultimately, when these men come back to reality and seek out sexual gratification from another human, their needs simply cant be met in the same way pornography meets their needs.
Is there hope?
Recovery is possible, and erections do return. Deem, along with many others, have chosen a path of abstinence. After some time, these men noticed less PIED and a great improvement in erections. If porn is wrecking your erection when attempting sex with others, contact one of our experts at SHAW Center for Healing and let us help you find Sexual Health and Wellness.
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Are you an extrovert? Well, you might just be happier than the rest.
Recent research focusing on five major countries dived into what personality traits were linked with higher life satisfaction. Canada, Japan, Germany, United Kingdom, and the United States were the focus of this study. With tens of thousands of participants, what they found was a link between extroversion and life satisfaction. While the trend was clear across all countries, they did find lower life satisfaction in some countries then others, indicating that this find was culturally influenced. North America was found to have the highest link between the two factors.
Other studies have also found this link. One such study, completed in 2013, found a link between extroversion, life satisfaction, and job satisfaction in China. The researchers postulated this was due to higher success in the work place when one is considered an extrovert.
So why is this?
In 2002, researchers found that extroverts possessed the ability to find “hedonic balance”, or the capability of balancing positive and negative emotions. However, you shouldn’t worry if you are inclined to believe you are an introvert, this trend does not mean you cant be happy too.
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,Article Summary By Michael Estlack, Director of Connectivity
Are you a man taking antidepressants? Well, you aren’t alone. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, 1 in 10 men are now taking antidepressants. That’s a 69% increase from the 1999 statistics where only 5% of men reported medication use. What’s odd is that nearly half of those prescribed are for reasons other than depression. Such ailments include pain, insomnia and anxiety.
According to Fred Rabinowitz, Ph.D., “Male depression sometimes manifests through the ‘male code’ that says you cannot show weakness, sadness, or vulnerability”. Some of these men may be getting treated incorrectly because they fear coming forward with their depression. Men also display different symptoms when dealing with depression, so traditional criteria often misses a diagnosis. Sadness is not the hallmark for male depression; anger, substance abuse, and impulsivity are often the underlying mechanisms.
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According to a recent article in "Spirituality and Health Mafazine," singular words can have a powerful effect on our lives. "Depressed", "anger", and "joy" are all words that carry significant weight on their own. Most of the times in our life, we only need one word to describe how we feel in the moment. The problem is, we often ascribe to these words and generalize them to more then just the present. This may be fine for using the word "joy", but describing your entire life as "depressed" can be dangerous and keep you stuck in such a place.
So how can we benefit from the power of singular words?
Let them only describe the present. Are you depressed? Then tell yourself that you are only depressed right now. Are you full of joy? Then be joyous right now. Let yourself be ok with being content in the moment. We can truly harness these words and let them shape our lives for the better. When we tune ourselves into these singular words, we connect with where we are emotionally. When negative words overwhelm us, we can use positive words such as "hope" to bring us back to a positive space.
Allow "hope" to be the reigning word in your life. Let our "hope" experts at SHAW Center for Healing help you to bring that POWERFUL word into your daily vocabulary and create the life you've always imagined!
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Everyone loves to win an argument. Whether you are right or wrong, there are some simple steps, according to research, that’ll help your case.
First and foremost, don’t be aggressive. Aggression can be a sign that you know you aren’t right. Instead, try to start conversation around the topic. Let the person feel like you are interested in their ideas and what they have to say. They will more likely be interested in your input if you do.
Second, mask their body posture. Research shows that people are more willing to believe someone else when their posture matches their own. Are they sitting cross-legged? Then so should you. Be sure you do this discretely though. Making it obvious can actually have adverse effects.
Last, but absolutely not least, make sure you have your facts straight. Being right when you know you are wrong can be difficult. Try not to argue just for argument sake and be prepared if you plan on defending yourself. Never raise your voice and be sure to affirm your statements with questions to the other person. Such as “Right?” and “Wouldn’t you think so?”. This keeps them involved in the situation and helps make your point.
Learning how to deal with others in a healthy manner can be difficult. Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing make you an EXPERT in dealing with others.
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Abusive relationships are an all too real thing in today’s society. So, what causes people to stay? Sometimes individuals stay because of the deep connection they have formed, and sometimes there are other reasons. One thing that’s true though is that abusive relationships are unhealthy and detrimental to both involved. Leaving may seem impossible, but it does not have to be.
Here’s a list of 5 steps for leaving an abusive relationship:
1. Remember, the abuse is real. All too often, it has been found that the abused person minimizes and disregards the abuse that is occurring. Hint: If it feels like abuse, then most likely it is.
2. Remember, help is available and ready for you. There are many organizations that have been formed just for this reason. One such organization is National Domestic Violence Hotline who can provide shelter, legal services and group therapy when needed. They can be reached at: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224.
3. When reaching out for help over the internet, be sure to hide your activities. This is a critical time for you seeking help. Be sure that your abuser can’t prevent any progress by knowing your plans.
4. Don’t forget the underlying reasons for falling into a dysfunctional relationship in the first place. Is it low self-esteem or depression? Both can make it hard to leave when the abuse begins. Reaching out to a therapist can help you gain the confidence you might need to leave the relationship.
5. Explore what caused you to stay so that you don't fall into another similar situation. Psychotherapy is a great way to explore yourself in a safe, supportive environment, where you can examine patterns and develop new tools for healthier relationships.
Are you in a abusive relationship? If so, remember: There is a way out. Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing guide you as you restore yourself in a safe supportive environment.
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