We all experience anxiety and more and more we are seeing it in our children. It can be painful for a parent to sit there and watch their child suffer without any clear advice for them. Whether the kid is stressing over fitting in or doing well in school, it’s no wonder they live a life full of stressors.
According to QuickandDirtyTips.com, there are five things a parent or guardian can do to help their little one:
1. Help them make a game plan to activate when they face troubles. It also gives them the confidence that you trust them with adult-like decisions.
2. Teach them to talk back to their worries. Even personifying it as a person or creature that they can communicate with. This can also be accomplished with positive affirmation notes that they carry around. One example being: “You are bigger then your worries.”
3. Teach them the physical characteristics of anxiety and remind them that they will dissipate with some work. When they start to feel dizzy during a spelling bee, remind them this is just a sign of worry and it will go away. They should not fear these feelings for they are normal.
4. Break them from their rituals. If they are participating in a ritual to deal with their worries, like tapping a pencil seven times, this might be the time that they find another way to deal with the stress.
5. Hear them out. Too often we are concerned with giving direction and advice. Let your child take the lead for once. Of course, things must get done like homework, but taking the pressure away from how you speak to them can greatly help.
Do you have a child challenged with anxiety and worry? Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing guide you to help your child develop new coping strategies.
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Relationships. I’m sure we all wish they were easier. Maybe even a single solution to all relationship challenges could be helpful too. However, this is far from the truth. Strong and healthy relationships require constant work and time, but if done right, they can bring about a great partnership. According to www.bustle.com, there are 10 habits of strong and healthy relationships:
1. Communication. Having an open and honest communication is critical here. Don’t sweep issues under the rug. Bring them into the light, face the un-comfortableness, and talk it out.
2. Respect. Having respect for your partner is also important. Also, be sure to watch what you say to your partner. Negativity towards them shows a lack of respect.
3. Quality time, not quantity. Make your interactions matter. Put your relationship in situations where a deep connection can be created.
4. Time apart is also very important. Make sure you don’t spend every waking moment with this person. Set time aside for your interests, hobbies, and activities.
5. Learn your partner’s love language and attend to that. They include: words of affirmation, receiving gifts, quality time, acts of service, and physical touch.
6. Be sure to show your appreciation. Make sure they know they are valued in your life
7. Don’t focus on their negatives. We all have positives and negatives about us. Try and keep this balance in your head.
8. Choose your battles. You don’t have to always have to be right. Sometimes it might just be best to let your partner take the win.
9. Keep your sex life alive and well. Be creative in the bedroom, or out...and continue to mix it up.
10. Don’t play the comparison game. Nothing quite looks as it seems and trying to compare your partner to another’s is a fruitless and dangerous task.
Want a better, healthier relationship with your loved one? Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing guide you on your journey.
To read the full article: https://www.bustle.com/articles/45366-10-habits-of-couples-in-strong-and-healthy-relationships
We all feel stuck in our lives at times. Whether it’s at work or in a relationship, this inevitable feeling can cause detrimental effects to our lives. According to spiritualityhealth.com, there are seven antidotes to feeling stuck:
1. Doing nothing can make you feel stuck. We may not know what the right path is for us, so we do nothing. The antidote? Make a decision and go with it.
2. Not following our inner voice can also cause us to feel stuck. The antidote? Listen and trust what your mind and body are telling you.
3. Putting others needs before your own can also cause this problem. Sometimes you need to put your needs first to get moving with your life.
4. Doing things we don’t like or that we aren’t good at can cause us to feel stuck as well. Do what you like and do what you are good at.
5. Don’t forget about staying creative. Add spice to your life by being creative with what you do and think.
6. Lack of support can also make you feel stuck. Find a group that supports and nurtures your interests. Also, make sure you are open with what you feel like you need and want.
7. Lastly, we often blame others for this feeling of being stuck. Take responsibility for your life and take the action to move forward. Don’t trick yourself into thinking your problems are due to others.
Feeling stuck? Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing guide you to a more fulfilling, forward-moving life.
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According to an article in Scientific America, alcohol consumption now has strong ties with several forms of cancer. Most of us know that alcohol is a toxin to the body, but these new findings are startling. According the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 3.5% of all cancer deaths in the United States, or 19,500 deaths, are alcohol-related.
Not only can alcohol cause cancer, but also if you are already afflicted with cancer, alcohol can cause a recurrence of that cancer and others.
A survey by ASCO found that 70% of Americans were unaware of this tie between alcohol and cancer. Such cancers include breast cancer in females and liver cancer.
Light drinkers, as defined as less than one drink per day, have a 4% increase in chances of breast cancer. Moderate drinkers have a 23% increase, while heavy drinkers, or those drinking 8 or more drinks a day, have a 63% increase in occurrences of breast cancer. This is largely in part due to alcohol effects on the female sex hormone, estrogen.
Want to better your health and learn to eliminate or reduce alcohol in your diet? Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing Guide you on your path to a happier, healthier you.
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According to an article by spiritualityhealth.com, jealousy appears throughout our lives and nobody, unfortunately, is immune to the sickening feeling it causes. Whether jealousy finds itself in our friendships or in our romantic relationships, it causes feelings of hurt we sometimes wish we could live without.
Recently, however, researchers have been very interested in finding the origin of this powerful emotion. To do so, researchers turned to our not so distant relatives, titi monkeys. Like humans, these monkeys show that they can create strong emotional bonds with their fellows. After some time, researchers created situations that would cause jealousy to arise in the paired off monkeys and brain scans were performed.
Researchers were able to see heightened activity in both the cingulate cortex and lateral septum of the research subjects. The lateral septum is associated with pair formation and the cingulate cortex is activated when social rejection occurs. The hormone testosterone spiked in monkeys who were displaying jealousy along with stress hormone cortisol. With this and previous research, scientist conclude that strong bonds in these pairs are closely linked to areas of the brain that deal with social memory and reward.
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Whether you are challenged with jealousy or other negative emotions, our experts at SHAW Center for Healing can help you find peace. Contact us today for a free 15-minute consultation.
Article by Andrew Sartory, Functional Health and Wellness Advisor
This is a question a lot of people have - how much do I need to exercise?
Twenty minutes three times per week? Half-hour per day?
And how much is too much?
Do you need to sweat it out for an hour or more every day?
You might be surprised at the answer. So many people don’t exercise at all because they think they have to follow tough, complex plans or go to the gym to get results - but that’s not true!
Most people aren’t training to be triathletes or compete in bodybuilding competitions - so most people don’t have to train like that.
Let’s go over the ideal amounts for getting into shape and feeling good in your body, starting with the minimum.
What’s The Minimum Amount Of Exercise?
First, you have to start from where you are right now. If you’re not already exercising regularly, there's no need to go overboard. In fact, trying too much too soon may derail your motivation, out too much pressure on you and cause you to give up.
So, let’s say you’re not that active (yet). What if I were to recommend “ten to twenty minutes every other day at a level you can easily do?” And yes, going for a brisk walk counts. How does that sound as a starting point?
Pretty do-able, right?
Because you can absolutely get into great shape starting with this plan!
It might feel longer at first, but when you get over that initial hump and get started, you’ll find that it’ll become easier and easier over time!
How would you like to look back, 3 or 6 months from now and feel great about the progress you made, by starting nice and easy with just 10 to 20 minutes every other day?
It's one of the best feelings ever for my clients!
So if you’re not active now, you’ll get amazing benefits by starting with the bare minimum.
(I actually LOVE working with people who are starting out with zero exercise - because it’s so easy for them to get started with something simple and they get BIG results, FAST!)
Remember, a ten to fifteen minute brisk walk is infinitely better than not trying at all.
We have a lot of misconceptions about relationships, according to Mark Mason. We idealize romance, which often times get]s in the way of having a realistic relationship. In his latest article, Mason details 6 common trends in relationships that most think are healthy, but are actually detrimental to the fabric of the partnership:
Do any of these challenges occur in your relationship? If so, let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing help you resolve your relationship troubles and guide you to a healthier, happier partnership.
Check out the full article here: https://markmanson.net/6
According to spiritualityhealth.com, “We are meant to experience acute stress, the short bursts that cause us to undergo a variety of physiological changes that help us navigate that situation.”
We all experience this stress. In the book Stress Proof, by Mithu Storoni, MD, Storoni explains six ways to mitigate stress. These six ways explain how to change your emotional response to stress.
While stress is the reality for all of us, it doesn’t have to control your life. Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing help you learn how to deal with your stress on your path to a happier, healthier you.
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Recently, I read an interesting article called The Legion Lonely, by Stephan Thomas. It details patterns of loneliness in adults, specifically what’s seen in men. In the article, men appear to fall into loneliness in much greater numbers than women for a culmination of reasons.
First off, I get it.
I doubt loneliness and feelings of social isolation are evaded by anyone completely. I definitely know that I’m not immune to it. I really connected with this article because as I grow older, I find that my feelings of social connectedness have decreased. The article actually states that this tends to happen for most at age 25. So it’s no surprise that at 27, I’m starting to feel it.
For many years, I didn’t much care for people. My desired isolation was fueled by a drug addiction that lasted for years. However, after I got sober and remembered how to connect with others, I found that I needed and wanted others in my life. A big difference from my younger years is that I craved a deeper connection with others than what used to appease me. I can only assume that this is true for most.
This deeper connection is sometimes hard to find for me these days. I have thousands of friends on Facebook, but I rarely have much contact with most of them and hiding behind a computer no longer does it for me. Going downtown to hang out at the clubs doesn’t always do the trick either. Most conversations stay on the surface and hold no weight. I know many of my friends feel the same way.
For me, I find those desired connections in the recovery groups I attend. It’s a setting that requires being transparent and very vulnerable, both of which are extremely enticing to me these days. Maybe this is why men face loneliness in such high numbers as they grow older. They aren’t connecting with other men on that deeper level that they require.
In any case, there is hope for other men like me. Finding a group or small circle of friends you can confide in really helps, especially when you're struggling. This article also details how cognitive-behavioral therapy can assist those dealing with feelings of loneliness.
Loneliness doesn’t have to be your reality. Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing guide you to a life full of meaningful connections with others.
I highly recommend reading the full article here : https://hazlitt.net/longreads/legion-lonely
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