Article Summary By Christian Hadley
Ever feel like you are failing in your relationship due to the lack of support you give through conversation? Relationships endure many stressful moments. It is important you know how to communicate in a healthy matter, and also how to be a supportive listener. In this article Jennifer Priem, Ph.D., lists five suggestions for how to be a supportive listener:
Healthy communication is key. When you learn the ways to better your communicating skills, you will see a change not only in your relationship, but also in your health.
Have trouble communicating effectively with your partner? SHAW Center for Healing can help. Schedule a session today with one of our expert clinicians.
To read the full article, click here.
Relationships. I’m sure we all wish they were easier. Maybe even a single solution to all relationship challenges could be helpful too. However, this is far from the truth. Strong and healthy relationships require constant work and time, but if done right, they can bring about a great partnership. According to www.bustle.com, there are 10 habits of strong and healthy relationships:
1. Communication. Having an open and honest communication is critical here. Don’t sweep issues under the rug. Bring them into the light, face the un-comfortableness, and talk it out.
2. Respect. Having respect for your partner is also important. Also, be sure to watch what you say to your partner. Negativity towards them shows a lack of respect.
3. Quality time, not quantity. Make your interactions matter. Put your relationship in situations where a deep connection can be created.
4. Time apart is also very important. Make sure you don’t spend every waking moment with this person. Set time aside for your interests, hobbies, and activities.
5. Learn your partner’s love language and attend to that. They include: words of affirmation, receiving gifts, quality time, acts of service, and physical touch.
6. Be sure to show your appreciation. Make sure they know they are valued in your life
7. Don’t focus on their negatives. We all have positives and negatives about us. Try and keep this balance in your head.
8. Choose your battles. You don’t have to always have to be right. Sometimes it might just be best to let your partner take the win.
9. Keep your sex life alive and well. Be creative in the bedroom, or out...and continue to mix it up.
10. Don’t play the comparison game. Nothing quite looks as it seems and trying to compare your partner to another’s is a fruitless and dangerous task.
Want a better, healthier relationship with your loved one? Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing guide you on your journey.
To read the full article: https://www.bustle.com/articles/45366-10-habits-of-couples-in-strong-and-healthy-relationships
We have a lot of misconceptions about relationships, according to Mark Mason. We idealize romance, which often times get]s in the way of having a realistic relationship. In his latest article, Mason details 6 common trends in relationships that most think are healthy, but are actually detrimental to the fabric of the partnership:
Do any of these challenges occur in your relationship? If so, let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing help you resolve your relationship troubles and guide you to a healthier, happier partnership.
Check out the full article here: https://markmanson.net/6
What happens when your partner denies reality, and then you feel like you are losing your mind because you know that they are being dishonest? You may be a victim of "gaslighting".
“Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where one partner persistently denies the reality of the other partner (via consistent lying, bullying, and obfuscating the facts), causing that person, over time, to doubt her (or his) perception of truth, facts, and reality,” says Rob Weiss, international Sexual Health expert, in a recent blog post.
Gaslighting is very similar to folie à deux, a psychiatric syndrome meaning “madness of two”. However, folie à deux is different in that partners who gaslight are aware of that lies they are telling. Gaslighting is common because the partner wants to get away with their negative behavior. So, they lie and manipulate their partner into believing a false reality.
Gaslighting occurs to everyone, not just partners who are weak or who have low self-esteem. Partners are inclined to believe their loved ones during these particular instances because of the emotional connection they have with them. It’s human nature to trust those you love.
Do you believe you are a victim of Gaslighting? Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing help you heal and grow into a healthier relationship with your loved one.
For more information, find Rob's full article here:
Time Magazine reports that pornography is everywhere. With the advent of the Internet, we now have unlimited access to any form of sexually explicit material we desire, 24 hours a day. Pornhub, a popular explicit-video-sharing site, reported in 2015 having 2.4 million visitors per hour alone. In 2016, Pornhub reported that users watched 92 billion videos in 23 billion total site visits where 4.6 billion hours of porn were consumed.
"To break it down really quickly, in order to deliver that volume of free porn, our servers streamed 99 Gigabytes of data every second. To help put this into perspective, try to picture the size of a 16GB USB stick. Now imagine 194 million USB sticks, spanning 11,000km (6800 miles) from end to end; or around the entire circumference of the moon," states Pornhub's report.
This is a feat we should be proud of, right? Well, maybe not just yet…
While the insane variety and amount of porn increases, so do the rates of erectile dysfunction (ED) in the male population. According the U.S. National Institutes of Health, 5% of men at the age of 40 experienced erectile dysfunction in 1992. However, in a study by the Journal of Sexual Medicine, 26% of adult men just under 40 experienced erectile dysfunction in 2013, a substantial increase from the 1992 report.
Is porn the culprit for this increase in ED?
Porn-induced erectile dysfunction, or PIED, is becoming more and more of a real possibility for habitual porn users. Because pornography lights up the brain with dopamine, a central component in the brain’s reward system, one can find that their brain quickly associates a pleasurable time with sexually explicit material.
Pornography offers quick gratification in large quantities for every possible fetish imaginable. This results in sustained high levels of brain activation during its use. Gary Wilson, author of Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction, argues, “The result in some Internet porn users is higher brain activation to internet porn, and less arousal to sex with a real person”. This statement is backed by the many who report problems with PIED.
Gabe Deem, a male plagued with PIED states, "I got with a gorgeous girl and we went to have sex and my body had no response at all." Many others also claim this disconnect between the levels of attraction they feel towards a partner and their subsequent bodily responses.
Is there a solution?
Many, including Deem, have stopped viewing porn altogether. "The reason I quit watching porn is to have more sex," says Deem. This task may be daunting to some and several forums and websites such as NoFap have surfaced in hopes to offer support to those experiencing PIED.
SHAW Center for Healing treats many women and men who self-report being "addicted to pornography." Our sex-positive approach to recovery offers our clients a chance to heal from the painful effects of pornography addiction and lead lives that are rich with emotional, physical, spiritual, and erotic intelligence.
Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing guide you toward erotic intelligence and a happy, healthy sex life. Contact us today for a free 15-minute consultation.
To read Time Magazine's incredibly provocative article, it's now available for free here.
Sex addiction takes a toll on not only the addict but also on any romantic partners and/or family members that may be involved. In the beginning, there is generally a lot of focus on getting the sex addict into recovery. It is equally important that partners and family members begin their own journey of recovery.
Our Amazing Team