Article Summary By Michael Estlack, Director of Connectivity
Recovery is very possible for all of us, but we have to remember that our addiction still lives with us even when we get sober. We live with past mistakes, the knowledge that we could always slip if we let up on our program of recovery, and secrets that some may never understand. According to thefix.com, there are five traits that people in recovery share:
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Introducing our new weekly series (every Wednesday): "Book of the Week". Today, founder Christopher Shaw shares about his favorite "Book of the Week:" Mel Ash's The Zen of Recovery.
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Article Summary By Michael Estlack, Director of Connectivity
Recent research spearheaded by the Dutch has now established a correlation between early signs of mental health disorders and later substance abuse problems. Looking at young people dealing with anxiety, depression, oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), conduct disorder (CD), or attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), these researchers found a significantly higher rate of drug, alcohol, and nicotine use later in life. Researchers hypothesized this use was a means to self-medicate these pre-existing disorders.
Annabeth Groenman, Ph.D., from the University Medical Center Groningen in the Netherlands, says, “Although the link between ADHD and later substance-related disorders was well established, literature did not show such a clear link between other childhood disorders and later substance-related disorders. I feel that with this study we identify a vulnerable group in society and show that those with problems in childhood can grow up to become troubled adults.”
Coming from a generous sample size of 762,187 case studies, researchers hope that finding this relationship between early mental disorders and substance abuse later in life will allow for preventative measures to be employed.
Groenman also remarks, “Now that we know that this group of youngsters is particularly at risk, we can work together with clinicians, government and relevant organizations to reduce the number of substance-related disorders in later life and hopefully reduce debilitating consequences later in life.”
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Article Review by Michael Estlack, Director of Connectivity
With our current trend of disassociating sexual gratification from love, intimacy and physical connection, we find a rise in "pornosexuality". This newly adapted term refers to someone who solely links his or her sexuality to porn. While porn reached consumers through only 90 porn magazines before the birth of the Internet, we now see websites such as “Pornhub” claiming an average of 64 million viewers a day. This frequent pornography watching not only can become addictive in nature, but can also become a means for individuals to keep themselves safe from the possibility of rejection and the anxiety one might experience from intimate situations.
by Dr. Stanford
I live to see the positive changes that my clients are courageous enough to make happen in their lives. I believe that this transformation happens in an integrative and holistic environment that focuses on resilience and strengthening our best selves. I am so grateful to be in a career that I love. I feel honored to be able to be a witness to the transformations that happens in front of me every day.
In order to build intimacy and connection, we have to be able to trust. Trust is one of those huge, often abstract concepts. Has anyone ever been told “I can’t trust you”, but feeling sort of clueless on how to regain that trust? On the other hand, have you been betrayed in the past, you want to learn how to trust again, but you just don’t know where to begin? Most importantly, have you relapsed or fallen and feel lost on how to trust yourself again?
I wanted to share this exercise that I came across in my work with Brene´ Brown and the Rising Strong Process. I have been working through it with many of my clients and they have found it helpful to pinpoint how to gain/build trust. It helps us to understand the different elements that make up trust. We are able to assess which areas we do really well with and which areas we could use some growth. This exercise works really well when looking to strengthen others trust in us, our ability to trust others and most importantly…self trust.
Using the acronym BRAVING, examine each of the areas below to identify strengths and opportunities for growth to build more trust in your life:
B- Boundaries: You respect my boundaries, and when you’re not clear about what’s okay and not okay, you ask. You’re willing to say no and you ask for what you need.
R- Reliability: You do what you say you’ll do. This means staying aware of your competencies and limitations so you don’t overpromise and are able to deliver on commitments and balance competing priorities.
A- Accountability: You own your own mistakes, apologize, and make amends. You don’t blame others for your mistakes and when you need to hold others accountable you do so honestly and with respect.
V- Vault: You don’t share information or experiences that are not yours to share. I need to know that my confidences are kept, and that you’re not sharing with me any information about other people that should be confidential.
I- Integrity: You choose courage over comfort. You choose what is right over what is fun, fast or easy. And you choose to practice your values rather than simply professing them.
N- Nonjudgmental: I can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgment.
G- Generosity: You extend the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words and actions of others.
Braving Rumbling with Trust- Copyright 2015 by Brene Brown, LLC
The DeTUR model for Desensitizing Triggers and Urges addresses addictions and dysfunctional/unwanted behaviors. Successful results have been found across the spectrum of addictions and unwanted behaviors such as:
With the DeTUR model, we begin with comprehensive goal setting and treatment planning. Using eye movements and a mix of eclectic techniques, we will help you to reprocess the way your brain creates urges and triggers. This reprocessing occurs out of a conscious level of awareness. (Read more about EMDR).
I often see clients surprisingly report that at the end of the day they had not engaged in the negative behavior, or had - but not as often- , or had noticed urges to engage and could not set them aside. What is even more awesome is, at times, they actually reported an aversion when they thought about partaking in the unwanted behavior such as smoking, drinking coffee, or biting their nails.
I have seen this work really well for clients in the past few weeks to decrease urges related to sexual addiction, smoking, alcohol abuse, and afternoon chocolate cravings. Feel free to email or give me a call if you would like more information on this new treatment.
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