Article Summary By Michael Estlack, Director of Connectivity
Here’s the situation. Your partner, who is obviously agitated, gets home from work. You sit down with them so they can start venting to you about what has gotten them all worked up. You think you are offering supportive comments, but they are actually getting angrier. Have you been in this situation? I surely have.
According to spiritualityhealth.com, Jennifer Priem, Ph.D. has the answers we need to hear. She studies relationships, and specifically, the conversations that occur in them. In her studies, she measures cortisol levels, the stress hormone. With this research, she has devised a list of 5 ways we can become better listeners:
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Anger. We all feel it, and for most of us, it’s an uncomfortable feeling. Unfortunately, we can’t just lash out every time we feel angry and call this healthy necessarily. We have found that one of the most dangerous places for anger to surface is in our intimate relationships. We can cause a lot of harm very quickly when rage is behind the wheel.
According to a recent article at SpiritualityHealth.com, anger often manifests itself because a boundary has been broken or some need is not being met. Anger is our body’s way of protecting us from harm, both psychological and physical. So, how do we navigate it without destroying our relationships?
We must first take a step back, breathe, and slow down the situation. Here, we can explore the emotion and find the root of the troubles without first causing more harm to our significant others. It is important to note that anger sometimes masks other underlying emotions such as fear and grief. In these cases, it's important to address the fear and grief with the help of a healing professional, if needed.
Anger can also be channeled into a passionate conversation, a conversation that your relationship might dearly need. There are other ways we can safely process anger such as in psychotherapy, group psychotherapy, meditation, at the gym, or even in a yoga class.
Is anger wrecking your relationships? Don’t let it anymore. Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing provide you with tools to heal from anger and improve your relationships.
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The relationships we have are some of the most important aspects of our lives. However, sometimes our memory can stand in the way of creating lasting bonds. Forget one memory and you might just be in the doghouse. According to a recent article on spiritualityhealth.com, there are 8 easy things you should try and remember to continue those beloved relationships:
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Relationships. I’m sure we all wish they were easier. Maybe even a single solution to all relationship challenges could be helpful too. However, this is far from the truth. Strong and healthy relationships require constant work and time, but if done right, they can bring about a great partnership. According to www.bustle.com, there are 10 habits of strong and healthy relationships:
1. Communication. Having an open and honest communication is critical here. Don’t sweep issues under the rug. Bring them into the light, face the un-comfortableness, and talk it out.
2. Respect. Having respect for your partner is also important. Also, be sure to watch what you say to your partner. Negativity towards them shows a lack of respect.
3. Quality time, not quantity. Make your interactions matter. Put your relationship in situations where a deep connection can be created.
4. Time apart is also very important. Make sure you don’t spend every waking moment with this person. Set time aside for your interests, hobbies, and activities.
5. Learn your partner’s love language and attend to that. They include: words of affirmation, receiving gifts, quality time, acts of service, and physical touch.
6. Be sure to show your appreciation. Make sure they know they are valued in your life
7. Don’t focus on their negatives. We all have positives and negatives about us. Try and keep this balance in your head.
8. Choose your battles. You don’t have to always have to be right. Sometimes it might just be best to let your partner take the win.
9. Keep your sex life alive and well. Be creative in the bedroom, or out...and continue to mix it up.
10. Don’t play the comparison game. Nothing quite looks as it seems and trying to compare your partner to another’s is a fruitless and dangerous task.
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We have a lot of misconceptions about relationships, according to Mark Mason. We idealize romance, which often times get]s in the way of having a realistic relationship. In his latest article, Mason details 6 common trends in relationships that most think are healthy, but are actually detrimental to the fabric of the partnership:
Do any of these challenges occur in your relationship? If so, let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing help you resolve your relationship troubles and guide you to a healthier, happier partnership.
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Abusive relationships are an all too real thing in today’s society. So, what causes people to stay? Sometimes individuals stay because of the deep connection they have formed, and sometimes there are other reasons. One thing that’s true though is that abusive relationships are unhealthy and detrimental to both involved. Leaving may seem impossible, but it does not have to be.
Here’s a list of 5 steps for leaving an abusive relationship:
1. Remember, the abuse is real. All too often, it has been found that the abused person minimizes and disregards the abuse that is occurring. Hint: If it feels like abuse, then most likely it is.
2. Remember, help is available and ready for you. There are many organizations that have been formed just for this reason. One such organization is National Domestic Violence Hotline who can provide shelter, legal services and group therapy when needed. They can be reached at: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224.
3. When reaching out for help over the internet, be sure to hide your activities. This is a critical time for you seeking help. Be sure that your abuser can’t prevent any progress by knowing your plans.
4. Don’t forget the underlying reasons for falling into a dysfunctional relationship in the first place. Is it low self-esteem or depression? Both can make it hard to leave when the abuse begins. Reaching out to a therapist can help you gain the confidence you might need to leave the relationship.
5. Explore what caused you to stay so that you don't fall into another similar situation. Psychotherapy is a great way to explore yourself in a safe, supportive environment, where you can examine patterns and develop new tools for healthier relationships.
Are you in a abusive relationship? If so, remember: There is a way out. Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing guide you as you restore yourself in a safe supportive environment.
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Article Summary by Michael Estlack, Director of Connectivity
Emotional Intelligence: An important role in life
While intellect may have been previously considered the major predictor for success, it is now thought that emotional intelligence plays a much more important role in life. Emotional intelligence refers to our ability to deal with our internal workings such as our behavior and our ability to make personal decisions while also guiding us in social situations. We find that emotional intelligence is a skill we learn and improve upon through life-long practice and that normal intelligence is not predictive our emotional intelligence capabilities. Whether one is introverted or extroverted also appears to have no bearing on this skill-set.
This emotional intelligence we posses can be broken down in four key categories: Self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management. Self-awareness keeps us in tune with our emotional state while self-management allows us to use those emotions to direct our behavior. Social awareness on the other hand, allows us to perceive the emotional state of those around us. Relationship management then combines our knowledge of our emotional state and the state of those around us to guide our interactions with others.
So, what’s so important about emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence has become the strongest predictor for success both in life and in the workplace. It’s been found that 90% of the top performers in the workplace have high levels of emotional intelligence while the bottom tier performers score low on the scale.
Due to our brains amazing ability at rewiring itself, we can further our development of this intelligence with some action and become a better version of ourselves.
Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing help you raise your emotional intelligence on the journey to a better you. Begin your journey today.
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