Article Summary By Michael Estlack, Director of Connectivity
Recently, I read an interesting article called The Legion Lonely, by Stephan Thomas. It details patterns of loneliness in adults, specifically what’s seen in men. In the article, men appear to fall into loneliness in much greater numbers than women for a culmination of reasons.
First off, I get it.
I doubt loneliness and feelings of social isolation are evaded by anyone completely. I definitely know that I’m not immune to it. I really connected with this article because as I grow older, I find that my feelings of social connectedness have decreased. The article actually states that this tends to happen for most at age 25. So it’s no surprise that at 27, I’m starting to feel it.
For many years, I didn’t much care for people. My desired isolation was fueled by a drug addiction that lasted for years. However, after I got sober and remembered how to connect with others, I found that I needed and wanted others in my life. A big difference from my younger years is that I craved a deeper connection with others than what used to appease me. I can only assume that this is true for most.
This deeper connection is sometimes hard to find for me these days. I have thousands of friends on Facebook, but I rarely have much contact with most of them and hiding behind a computer no longer does it for me. Going downtown to hang out at the clubs doesn’t always do the trick either. Most conversations stay on the surface and hold no weight. I know many of my friends feel the same way.
For me, I find those desired connections in the recovery groups I attend. It’s a setting that requires being transparent and very vulnerable, both of which are extremely enticing to me these days. Maybe this is why men face loneliness in such high numbers as they grow older. They aren’t connecting with other men on that deeper level that they require.
In any case, there is hope for other men like me. Finding a group or small circle of friends you can confide in really helps, especially when you're struggling. This article also details how cognitive-behavioral therapy can assist those dealing with feelings of loneliness.
Loneliness doesn’t have to be your reality. Let our experts at SHAW Center for Healing guide you to a life full of meaningful connections with others.
I highly recommend reading the full article here : https://hazlitt.net/longreads/legion-lonely
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